Since it’s Thanksgiving, I wanted to do one of those “What are you thankful for?” posts. But, in light of recent world events, I want to pose a different question.
It feels like the state of our world has gone downhill in the last few years. Many factors contributed to our current state, and we are hearing more and more about violent conflict, terrorism, and tragedy. Events like these have been happening throughout history, but with advances in technology, they are presented to us more readily, faster, and in greater detail.
Recently, I have felt an overwhelming heaviness due to the negativity going on in the world. While being aware of what’s going on in the world is a good thing, being obsessed and consumed by it’s negativity is not. Thus, I have decided to focus my attention on my immediate surroundings, family, and friends. I know I cannot shut out the world completely, so I’ve been turning to things that have helped me in the past when I’ve needed to get through tough times.
A night out with friends
I admit it — I’m not a social butterfly by any means, but I have been getting better! I still don’t initiate plans, but thankfully I have friends that are always ready to extend an invitation out for supper or a fun activity so I don’t have to. Having a drink and wisecracking with a group of friends is one of my favourite things to do!
The promise of a good meal
If dinner plans are at one of my favourite restaurants, or it’s Christmas dinner at my folks’ place, I’m instantly put into a good mood. Take for instance this past Saturday. We had family photos scheduled before we were to meet up with my immediate family for dinner at Firestone. About 45 minutes into the photo session, my daughter was getting increasingly moody and uncooperative with being directed this way and that for poses. I got through it because I knew there was a spiced rum and Coke and pumpkin cheesecake waiting for me on the other side!
There is nothing like getting out of Dodge every now and then. I love this city, but getting out and taking in different scenery is quite liberating. If we’re heading somewhere far, I enjoy researching and planning the sights we’ll visit and places to eat — and sometimes we just wing it when we get there.
Throughout my life, music has been the main thing I would turn to if I was feeling angry, upset, or depressed. It really does soothe my soul. If I find a song that really makes me feel good, I put it on repeat until I can’t stand it anymore. I remember one day hearing Maps by Maroon 5 and enjoying how uplifted it made me feel. I ended up playing it over and over so much that I took my earbuds with me to bed so I could fall asleep listening to it. Currently, the song that is getting me through all the negativity in the world is Everything is Alright by The Glorious Sons, particularly the lyrics, “Everything is alright, if only for the night. I forgot what it feels like.” It reminds me of nights when I’m out with friends just goofing around and having a good time.
What gets you through the tough times?